Posts tagged prevention
beginner's guide: lube

I'm not shy about it - I am a lube fanatic.  It makes me so sad to think that the majority of sexually active (and note, by sexually active I do NOT mean only people that are having penis-in-vagina sex, because sex is WAY more than that) folks have never purchased or even picked up a bottle of this magical substance.  

Sex lube (otherwise known as "personal lubricant" - gosh people, get a fucking grip) is - are you ready for this - THE single easiest way to enhance your sex life.  (partnered OR solo)  Period.  

One of the most significant reasons why sex lube is magical is that it simultaneously enhances sexual pleasure AND increases sexual safety.  That's right, people, we aren't talking about choosing BETWEEN safety and satisfaction, like most of the sex-negative messages you've probably heard over the course of your life.  We are doing BOTH, at the same damn time.  Can I get an AMEN?!

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what lesbians can teach straight people about sex

I was recently chatting with a group of girlfriends, when one of them said something that really got my gears turning.  I don't even remember what exactly it was we were discussing, but amid the conversation she mentioned that her and her girlfriend, "have sex every day" and continued on.  The other girls continued to talk, but I had checked out of their conversation and checked in to my own thoughts (a little secret about me, my brain can only handle small chunks of information, so once it started down a path of contemplation, it was impossible to continue to absorb anything else).  

Not because of the every day frequency of their sex.

But because she called what they did "SEX"

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sex, love, and all the thankful feels

Unless you've been living under a very big, extremely heavy rock, you've probably noticed that lots of folks are having some feels about the recent presidential election.  one of the reasons why people are reacting with fear and uncertainty is president-elect Trump's promise to repeal the Affordable Care Act.  Under the ACA, women were entitled to effective birth control for no out-of-pocket cost, thereby increasing access to contraception for millions of American women.  Further, Trump has spoken out about defunding Planned Parenthood, which offers free or low-cost contraception for millions of women.  These two factors are making the future landscape of family planning extremely uncertain for many women - and men for that matter.  Increased access to contraception means more prevention of unintended pregnancy, which therefore leads to (1) lower rates of abortion and (2) less unplanned or unwanted births - which both cost the economy/taxpayers significantly more than prevention.  In fact, according to NARAL (National Abortion and Reproductive Rights Action League) for every $1 invested in contraception, taxpayers save $6 on costs related to unintended pregnancy.   

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considering an IUD?

In the aftermath of the recent election, and the potential repeal of the Affordable Care Act, many women are considering long-acting reversible contraception options (or, LARCs for short).  By taking advantage of one of these options in the next couple of months, their pregnancy preventing effects will last years after a loss of health insurance or decreased insurance coverage.  The most common LARC is the IUD, or intrauterine device (also sometimes known as an IUC or intrauterine contraceptive).  In my experience as a sex educator, IUDs are often misunderstood, so I thought it would be helpful to provide some easy-to-understand information about this EXTREMELY effective birth control option.  

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