Posts tagged oral sex
beginner's guide: lube

I'm not shy about it - I am a lube fanatic.  It makes me so sad to think that the majority of sexually active (and note, by sexually active I do NOT mean only people that are having penis-in-vagina sex, because sex is WAY more than that) folks have never purchased or even picked up a bottle of this magical substance.  

Sex lube (otherwise known as "personal lubricant" - gosh people, get a fucking grip) is - are you ready for this - THE single easiest way to enhance your sex life.  (partnered OR solo)  Period.  

One of the most significant reasons why sex lube is magical is that it simultaneously enhances sexual pleasure AND increases sexual safety.  That's right, people, we aren't talking about choosing BETWEEN safety and satisfaction, like most of the sex-negative messages you've probably heard over the course of your life.  We are doing BOTH, at the same damn time.  Can I get an AMEN?!

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my 3 secrets for an incredible blowjob

I know, I knowwwwwww not everyone shares this love affair of having genitals in your moth with me.  So, without further adieu, for those of you who enjoy a healthy face fuck or who have yet to give it a whirl and for anyone in between, I'm going to let you in on 3 of my best secrets for mastering the BJ.

Note: the tips below are NOT about specific tongue-twirling techniques like you normally see in fellatio advice, but rather overall blowjob guiding values and principles.

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what lesbians can teach straight people about sex

I was recently chatting with a group of girlfriends, when one of them said something that really got my gears turning.  I don't even remember what exactly it was we were discussing, but amid the conversation she mentioned that her and her girlfriend, "have sex every day" and continued on.  The other girls continued to talk, but I had checked out of their conversation and checked in to my own thoughts (a little secret about me, my brain can only handle small chunks of information, so once it started down a path of contemplation, it was impossible to continue to absorb anything else).  

Not because of the every day frequency of their sex.

But because she called what they did "SEX"

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Facebook Live Q&A RECAP

You guys!  I can't tell you how AMAZING it felt to be able to hang with you, live and in full effect, via Facebook Live this past weekend.  Me and my homefry Skipper got to answer some of your sex and relationship q's, giggle way too much, and talk a little more in depth about tips and strategies that can improve our love and sex lives. 

If you didn't get to join, and haven't caught it on SL&ATF's Facebook Page yet, it's available to watch below!  Here are the questions we were able to tackle:

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