Posts tagged dating
lemme teach you how to speak the language of LOVE

Y'all, in case you aren't aware, I consider myself to be #wifeygoals.

And this may come as a surprise, but tbh I used to (ok, maybe still do, a little bit) aspire to be a housewife.  Yes, yes, I've been a graduate student for like one million trillion years, which may sound silly for someone who ultimately wanted that MRS degree.  Because, like, contingency plans, my peoples!  

But seriously, I can't tell you the joy I get from like, grocery shopping.  Or doing dishes!  I like, LOVE chores, and would do them all day long if I had the time.  I'm that weirdo who'd love to organize kitchen pantry, whip up homemade muffins on the reg, and essentially keep my casa Pinterest-worthy at all times.

Basically, I'm domestical as fuck.

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my 9 minute relationship hack

Want to start your day off feeling loved, cozy, and close to your boo?

Try my snuggle snooze trick!

Yes, yes, I know it's not necessarily recommended to hit the snooze button first thing in the morning when you want to feel alert and rejuvenated in the A.M.  But I've been practicing this relatively simple, not wildly time consuming routine for some time now, and honestly feel a difference in the way my day begins.

And y'all, I am NOT a morning person.  I've definitely gotten better at it, but it's taken practice.  And dedication.  And really being aware of tips and tactics that help -- like this one.

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how to identify your love style

One of my favoritest things to do is analyze relationships.  (Like, duh, right?  Why else would I have this job?)   But not in a super judgmental way.  Not in a way where I'm like picking apart other couples' dynamics to criticize.  Just the opposite, actually.  In the work that I do, in order to help individuals or couples through coaching, I need to be able to understand their relationship as comprehensively as possible, with limited interaction.  Because I'm not living in the relationship experience the same way members of a couple are, right?  I'm not there every day and every night, through every celebration and every conflict, through the daily mundane and the extraordinarily special moments like they are.  I need to be able to intake limited information, interpret it through a professional lens, and translate that interpretation back to my client in helpful and actionable ways. 

One of my all-time gold star, go-to, reliable and helpful AF frameworks to help me understand a relationship is Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love.  It's one of those "theories" that just ALWAYS.  MAKES.  SENSE to me.  It's so real!  Want me to prove it?  Let me explain, and then I'm 100% positive you'll be able to see how it applies to your own romantic relationships...

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Facebook Live Q&A RECAP

You guys!  I can't tell you how AMAZING it felt to be able to hang with you, live and in full effect, via Facebook Live this past weekend.  Me and my homefry Skipper got to answer some of your sex and relationship q's, giggle way too much, and talk a little more in depth about tips and strategies that can improve our love and sex lives. 

If you didn't get to join, and haven't caught it on SL&ATF's Facebook Page yet, it's available to watch below!  Here are the questions we were able to tackle:

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